Avoid Arguments At All Cost We are often tempted to argue with others, especially when we are absolutely convinced that we're right about something. Not to mention, nine times out of 10, arguing just results in the other person even more firmly convinced that he is right. But even if we are right, what does arguing about it yield? Why prove someone else wrong? Is that going to make the person like us? Why not just let him save face, if we have nothing to gain from it but “feeling” superior? According to Carnegie, it's impossible to win an argument. If we lose the argument, we lose; if we win the argument, we have made the other person feel inferior, hurt his pride, and made him resent us. In other words, we still lose. "There is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument - and that is to avoid it."