Choosing to Take Responsibility
The only difference between a problem being painful or powerful is a sense that we chose it willingly. If you're unhappy in your current situation, it's likely because you feel like some part of it is outside your control.
We can't always control what happens to us, but we can always control how we interpret what happens to us as well as how we respond. The more we choose to accept responsibility in our lives, the more power we will exercise over our lives.