Spend Quality Time with your Partner
The modern age is a time of incessant distraction and time is one of our most valued commodities. As a result, too many couples get distracted from the heart of romance – spending time together. This brings us to the second love language:
The key to this language?
Undivided attention.
It's not enough to simply be together in the same room. Quality time is about focusing on your partner and nothing else, even if loads of distractions lurk behind every corner. Furthermore, spending quality time with your partner is a primary way for both of you to feel loved, respected and appreciated.
But remember: lots of married couples think they're spending time together when they're actually just spending time near each other. For instance, watching a football game or staring at a computer while chatting with your partner is not giving them the quality attention they need.
So what exactly is quality time?
Either quality conversations or quality activities. You probably have a sense of the former, so here's what the latter is:
A quality activity is something that one or both people want to be doing; it's less about the event itself and more about the chance to express love for each other. Not only that, but the more common activities you share, the more memories you'll have to look back on together in the future. These could be anything from strolling in a park, gardening, seeing a show or even preparing a meal together.
For instance, Emily loves going to bookstores to scour the stacks for her next great read. Her husband, Jeff, is not as enthusiastic about literature, but shares this activity with Emily nonetheless. He even helps her find books that she might enjoy.
Emily's end of the deal has been learning to identify when Jeff's patience is at the tipping point and she knows not to spend too long browsing. As a result, Jeff happily pays for whatever books Emily ends up choosing.
Spend Quality Time with your Partner
The modern age is a time of incessant distraction and time is one of our most valued commodities. As a result, too many couples get distracted from the heart of romance – spending time together. This brings us to the second love language:
The key to this language?
Undivided attention.
It's not enough to simply be together in the same room. Quality time is about focusing on your partner and nothing else, even if loads of distractions lurk behind every corner. Furthermore, spending quality time with your partner is a primary way for both of you to feel loved, respected and appreciated.
But remember: lots of married couples think they're spending time together when they're actually just spending time near each other. For instance, watching a football game or staring at a computer while chatting with your partner is not giving them the quality attention they need.
So what exactly is quality time?
Either quality conversations or quality activities. You probably have a sense of the former, so here's what the latter is:
A quality activity is something that one or both people want to be doing; it's less about the event itself and more about the chance to express love for each other. Not only that, but the more common activities you share, the more memories you'll have to look back on together in the future. These could be anything from strolling in a park, gardening, seeing a show or even preparing a meal together.
For instance, Emily loves going to bookstores to scour the stacks for her next great read. Her husband, Jeff, is not as enthusiastic about literature, but shares this activity with Emily nonetheless. He even helps her find books that she might enjoy.
Emily's end of the deal has been learning to identify when Jeff's patience is at the tipping point and she knows not to spend too long browsing. As a result, Jeff happily pays for whatever books Emily ends up choosing.
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